Stress Relief
is Step Five in
TORQUE BACK
a System to Fight
Bipolar Disorder
by Ken Jensen

Ken Jensen learned this after six years of intense battle with his illness, his doctors, his meds, his family, and ultimately himself. I know because I am him. I never want to go back to where I was before I discovered the ways to gain that sweet stress relief you probably crave right now.

But some possibly unexpected work needs to happen on your end. Something I can't directly help you with but promise needs to take place.

Let's call it "life pruning." Some things simply must go if you are ever to have a shot at a stress free life. And please notice. I did not say trouble free, I said stress free. There is a difference and I can help you attain the stress relief only to be found in the latter definiton. Please read more below:

Do you have experience with stress relief tactics like the ones on this page and/or more?
Please help others learn of your successes in these areas.

Ken Jensen

Help for Bipolar Disorder

Wellness Guidebook
Second Edition

This guidebook contains many details concerning nutritious supplements and their effect on the mentally ill mind. Great care was taken to ensure the accuracy of the information in the text. This book is intended to provide general information only, and is not a substitute for medical or psychiatric evaluation or treatment.

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Copyright 2010

Ken Jensen

URL: http://www.bipolar-disorder-survivor.com
Stress Relief 

Just in case I didn't already make it absolutely clear:

Step Five of TORQUE BACK (U):

Unacceptable stressors must be removed

This one is rather simple but may involve some very hard work. Much of the following may not apply to you but I'm throwing it all out there in case it does.

Stress relief can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Search out your stressors, remove them, and you have stress relief. Voila!

In the real world, it goes like this: if there is an irritant of some kind in your life, a person or situation that does not absolutely have to be there, dump them or it.

This can be a close friend, whom you love dearly, but when you take a step back and look at the overall picture, you see that whenever this person is around, you suffer in some fashion large or small. This is a quite common stressor and involves serious honesty with oneself.

Some friends mean well but they are simply dragging us down with their problems. If they're not taking the right steps to fix those problems, and this has been the pattern for a very long time, you are free to cut them loose and you should cut them loose.

You must examine why you're even hanging on to such a friend. None of this makes you or the friend a bad person but facts are facts. If you are good and bipolar, you must take steps to protect and heal yourself. Cut free anyone who ought to be cut free. You'll never gain any stress relief when people of this sort are in your life.

This is a tricky move and you need to be sure you're choosing the right path. Holosync will instill in you the ability to make these choices wisely.

This isn't always possible but maybe you need a different job if you're still functioning in the work world. You may be locked in one career out of complacency and comfort. A change may be just what you need.

Maybe you need a new home or apartment. Will everyone be able to take this step if that's the case? No. It would depend on the severity of your indivdual symptom set. But if you can and it would help to be in a new area, then go!

If there are family members who run you raw, you can't really or don't want to boot them, so sit them down for a heart to heart and let them know how they are grating your nerves. Maybe they don't know. Most "normal" people have no clue how extensive the list is of things that piss off and freak out a bipolar person, as it involves practically everything. Find a TACTFUL, soft way to tell these people in your life to give you a little more breathing room.

If they don't help you gain that stress relief, which you so badly need, the resulting backlash from you, intended or not, could be devastating. They need to acknowledge this fact. They will probably be the ones who have to deal with the result of their faulty interacting with you.

If a bill needs paying and you are directing funds to playtime activities, then do without until the bill is paid. Then it can no longer bother you. Then you can return to your hobby.

Maybe now is not the time for a new dog or cat. Or maybe yours will have to room with someone else as you pull yourself back together. A pet can be a source of love, warmth, and understanding when you need it most but they are also a responsibilty. They can unintentionally add to your stress. You will never have relief if you're scrambling to do right by another, even a pet, and finding you are not up to the task. This can actually compound your troubles as guilt and frustration set in.

Maybe a romantic relationship is not truly the great thing you think it is. This can go all the way to marriage. Matter of fact, your marriage may be driving you insane but it seems to be all the problems around the marriage are causing the grief. Again, this is tricky stuff and I am not advocating spur of the moment divorces as a way to solve all your problems. I'm just saying, look deeply and honestly at the situation, and see if a change may be necessary.

Have you started a new venture that has been going on for many, many months, or years, and not showing a sensible return? It probably should go. If it's not frustrating you, it's probably frustrating the hell out of your family, which then gets fed back to you as stress anyway. Level your head, and take another whack at it later.

Action Plan for Step 5:

Not much by way of outside info I can direct you to for this one. This involves both introspection and retrospection on your part. I'd suggest speaking to a third party, someone entirely separate from your life who deals with life issues, who can offer advice on your life in a detached fashion. Then you'd know you were getting the truth. You cannot achieve any stress relief when you're basing your decsisons to attain it on the judgment that got you stressed out in the first place. Your own.

I can be that person, through my website. Maybe a life coach or therapist would do the trick. You need someone who is not a part of your day-to-day life to give it to you straight and then help you find the tactful, rational ways to cut from your life what needs cutting.

Again, as you progress through your Holosync program this will all become clearer and easier to make happen. It is a natural progression in how you think and deal with problems and you don't have to force it.  You will just "get it" in many areas as you go. You will not need to search out stress relief. It will simply appear in your life, as if by magical forces and you'll then realize things aren't bothering you like they used to. It's wild to experience! As you may have guessed by now, I swear by Bill Harris and Centerpointe.

Stick with me and we'll get you there!

That's it for Step Five. Short and sweet but powerful in its scope. Why are certain people in your world? Why is a certain type of person always in your world? Why is it that one or some of the people you love the most can also upset you the worst? Is your current job truly worth the pain it causes you? Stress relief is impossible when workling a hated job. Is where you live the best you can do or have you settled?

These are some huge questions/problems and they are not always easy to rectify, even if you desperately want to change their causes. The economy and geographical location are two big stoppers to fixing much of this, should you want to try. Responsibilities to family, in all sorts of ways, are big stoppers to enacting the change you'd desperately like to enact in your life. Spousal bonds of a darker variety cause huge issues for some

All I'm saying here, is "trim the easy fats out first." If there are any obvious stressors, cut them out quick. For the harder ones, the seemingly impossible ones, there is only giving my system time to work. As the new version of yourself emerges, the answers to these problems will appear. You'll be able to think your way comfortably to a more suitable outcome.

On the other hand, as your threshold rises, many of these stressors will no longer qualify as stressors.  That's a million dollar treat for some of us that Centerpointe can hand you. Stress relief by default. Can there be a sweeter gift?

Step Six next.

Be well,

Ken

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